Todays topic will be about self-confidence. But to begin I need to reach out the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem. They are namely quite different.

Self-esteem can be described as a more general sense that we can cope with what’s going on in our lives, and that we have a right to be happy. Also, self-esteem comes in a part from the feeling that people around us approve us. We may not be able to control this, and if we experience a lot of criticism or rejection from others, our self-esteem can easily suffer unless we support it in other ways.

So lets continue with the focusing at the self-confidence. When you got self-confidence you trust your abilities even when other don’t. It means you don the right thing even when its hard or you have to go against others opinion. It also means you not afraid to admit when you wrong, and not afraid of learning from that mistakes. The good news is that self confidence can be learned and developed. First start to think positively, when you got into self-defeating thoughts force to stop and think about something more empowering such as -I can do this. If start to have doubt about what you are doing, take a paus and write this down on a paper. Then calmly and rationally challenge them. You might find that many of this doubts looks more irrelevant and other might be valid.

When it comes to self-confidence even the behaviors will tell us about this topic. -Are you willing to take risks and to go the extra mile to achieve better things or are you staying in the comfort zone, fearing failure, and avoiding risk? Are you admitting your mistakes and learning from them – or are you working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices?

And it is also important to appear confident to others. So think about the way you speak, tone, voice and words. Energy and enthusiasm, and being expert or knowledgeable in the area. The body language is a chapter by its own in this context.

The Offspring – ”Self Esteem” – YouTube

Todays Christmas suggestion will be: A book of Anders Blomé ”bilder från Västjämtland” real nice photos from the area of Jämtland Sweden.

See ya tomorrow…